Facebook Friday: To Gripe or Not to Gripe?

There are two kinds of people in this world: those that like to gripe and those that do not. I fall into both camps at times, but I am making a concentrated effort to look for the good and focus on that. Recently, Facebook actually considered changing its name to Gripebook, but Zuckerberg thought it was a terrible idea. I think it might do well, but I’m not a business genius like he is.

Have you ever paid attention to the amount of griping that goes on in your Facebook feed? Statistics say that 46% of all Facebook posts are a gripe about something (Okay, that statistic isn’t real. You know what they say. 63% of statistics are made up on the spot. Yea, I made that statistic up as well. Usually the stats I give are accurate. I promise). But seriously, I don’t know the real statistics, but people like to gripe. Don’t they?

When I was in college, for my final in Counseling Theories, our professor told us we had to take the final at his house. Our class shows up, and he says we are going to watch a film on counseling that will drastically change how we work with clients. After he served us a good meal, we all settled in to watch this “master therapist” at work. The film we watched was Pollyanna. You know, the Disney film with Hayley Mills from 1960. Aside from all of the “techniques” he pointed out from the movie, there was a quote that has stuck with me ever since.

During the film Pollyanna says, “When you look for the bad in mankind expecting to find it, you surely will.” Isn’t that true? If you want to find the negative in any person, situation, or organization you will find it every single time. You don’t really even have to try all that hard.

Now am I saying we should be the eternal optimist that lives in denial about problems or negative situations? Most certainly not. I am saying that I think we can do better things with our time than sit around and grumble about things. We can take action and change things, we can look for the good, and we can encourage those around us. Any of these options will serve us, and those around us, much better than ranting about how bad things are.

Think about it. Everything is amazing and we gripe about so much. Sure, we all have our struggles, but most of us are extremely blessed. Could we just be happy? Could we be thankful? Could we focus on the positive? Could we uplift others? Could we live like Christians are suppose to live and be filled with joy?

Next time we are going to post on Facebook, let’s let our finger linger on the enter key and ask ourselves, “Am I just complaining, or am I being positive?” Let’s stop adding to the noise of negativity. Let’s let others know how truly blessed we are. I mean, aren’t Christians suppose to be the ones with all the joy?

Walk good. Live wise. Be blessed.


  • efchristi says:

    Wise words grasshopper!

    I agree we all fit both categories and an effort needs to be made to seek the good in things. Actually, your made up statistic is pretty accurate, there is an awful amount of negative being posted. For myself, I post a daily thought and a prayer with the hope of starting someone’s day better.

    I do have a habit of commenting to someone who is whining a bit of pointing out just how much better it really is and there are others in the same position who see things in a brighter light. I also do the same with blog posts. It is not that I think it is wrong to feel sorry for yourself, I think you should look at what decision you made that put you there.

    Walk daily with God at your side!


  • Ben says:

    Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need.

    We could sure learn a lot from Paul.

  • Kim Melancon says:

    I dont believe most people who profess to be christians realize how important it is to be positive and joyfull, being ones to speak blessings instead of spew poisen… what we display in our daily lives is very important… skeptics are watching trying to decide if we really have something special.

  • Yay Josh! Love this reminder for our posts, and our heart ‘tudes! Pollyanna’s quote reminds me of Thumper’s dad — they seem to have all the advice we need when posting on FB: “If you can’t say something nice….. don’t say nuthin’ at all.”

  • BigSkyKen says:

    Great message, quoting one of my family’s favorite shows. Not sure if you remember “The Glad Game” that Pollyanna played, but it is almost a corollary to her quote, applying to seeking the positive in your situation. I think she also said there were over 800 “happy texts” in the Bible, and if God said we should rejoice that many times, He must really mean it! Yet, we find it so easy to forget, “This is the day the Lord hath made; let us rejoice and be glad in it” (Psalms 118:24).

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