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10 People I Would Love To Have Coffee With


Recently, I was thinking about interesting or intellectual people, living or dead, who I would love to share a conversation with over a cup of coffee. This was a difficult task because there are so many different people I would be elated to meet at the local Starbucks, but I decided to narrow it down to ten. You will notice Jesus is not on this list. It seems obvious that he would be the first choice, so I did not add Him. Besides, I do talk with Him on a daily basis. My list of ten people I would love to have coffee with follows in no particular order.

  1. The Apostle Paul
  2. C.S. Lewis
  3. The All State Mayhem Guy
  4.  Moses
  5. Abraham Lincoln
  6. Ravi Zacharias
  7. Ted Dekker
  8. Norman Geisler
  9. Thomas Aquinas
  10. Jon Acuff

If by some chance, I were to be able to meet the Apostle Paul down at Hebrews coffee shop, here is what our conversation might be like:

Me: So, what are you drinking?

Paul: Coffee. I take it black as Tar…sus. That is a hometown joke. What are you having?

Me: A White Chocolate Mocha with extra whip.

Paul: That sounds like some sort of sissy drink.

Me: Nervous chuckle…So, tell me about your experience coming to know Christ.

Paul: Haven’t you read my writings? Well, it was pretty intense. I was walking down the Damascus road, and all of the sudden this blinding light practically knocks me on my rear, and I hear this booming voice. I have no idea what is happening, so I cry out, who are you? And the voice answers, “I am Jesus, who you are persecuting. It is hard for you to kick against the goads.”

Me: What’s a goad?

Paul: An epic word for a cattle prod.

Me: Oh, neat.

Paul: Yea, so I knew in that moment my life was changed. I felt instant remorse for all of my prior actions. Everything was different from that day on. I was a changed man. I felt free.

Me: Some people wonder if it was a hallucination or something you had.

Paul: Seriously? Me? With no previous history of mental illness? No, I know what I saw. You don’t lay your life down over some hallucination that you might question. Trust me, when you see Christ, you know you just had an experience with the transcendent.

Me: That is some story. Speaking of you dying, you sure suffered a lot for your faith.

Paul: Yea, but I counted it as a privilege. I was beaten within an inch of my life. Shipwrecked once, that was sort of fun. People were stuck listening to me preach. I was also imprisoned for preaching the Gospel. I just couldn’t stop sharing it. Everything goes back to when I met Christ. When you experience Him, everything changes.

Me: Your determination and love for God are so inspiring to millions of people.

Paul: So what persecution have you had to endure for Christ?

Me: Well, sometimes people talk about me and give me snarky looks.

Paul: …

Me: Yea, plus church is really early. We have to be up around 8:00 AM to go sit in a padded pew for a couple of hours.


Me: Finding the time to read the Bible and pray can be difficult as well. There is only so much time in a day. Then there are people always judging your motives and saying that you’re hypocritical these days. Yea, in todays times being a Christian and sharing your faith is hard.

Paul: Uh…yea. Sounds like it.

Me: So what do you think are some of the largest problems facing Christianity today?

Paul: People not engaging their minds in regards to their faith, along with a lack of discipline. It is really hard for me to understand how people can be lazy when they have experienced the Christ.

Me: That sounds exactly on the mark. You have really challenged me.

Paul: Glad to hear it! Well, I have to run now. It was good having a cup of Josephus with you.

Me: Josephus?

Paul: Yes, Josephus. Aka. Cup of Joe. Sorry, that was another ancient joke.

Me: Awkward chuckle. Thanks Paul. So great to have met you!

Paul: You too. See that you walk circumspectly. The days are evil you know. Make sure you are redeeming the time. Blessings friend.

Walk good. Live wise. Be blessed.

If you could have coffee with anyone, living or dead, who would it be?

Drag It Into The Light


“Sin thrives in the dungeon, but slap it on the table for all to see, and it withers rather quickly.” – Ted DekKer

I think we must remember that change does not occur in isolation. As long as our sins remain in secret, we will have limited (if any) success overcoming them. Our secrets keep us sick. When I hear someone lean in and say, “I have never told anyone this before……but……_______(fill in the blank)” I get extremely excited. I know this person is moving along in the change process. If we continue to keep our sins secret, we will remain stuck in our current rut.We must confess. Drag our sins in the light. Watch it wither.

Walk Good. Live Wise. Be Blessed.

Three Years


This week (July 19th) my wife and I celebrated our third year of marriage. It has gone by in a blink. We have a covered a lot of ground in three years, and it has been the togetherness that has made the journey so much fun to traverse. I have enjoyed the memories and traditions we have created for our family. I like that we have our unique way of doing things that is special to us. I am so glad to have chosen Devon and thankful that she chose me.

If there is one thing I have learned from marriage, it is that I am far too selfish. My tendency is to think of me first, and sometimes me only. Selfishness is the cyanide in any relational endeavor, but especially in marriage. We must pursue one another with a fervor, sacrificing our own desires to serve the other. I find that when I make pursuing my wife priority, she is drawn to do the same. A reciprocal dance ensues where we are both getting our needs met by serving the other.

I am so thankful to have a woman in my life who will always come to my rescue. I honestly feel like she is my biggest cheerleader and defender. When I am down she lifts my spirits. When I am discouraged she speaks life. When the time comes to fight, she is there with her back against mine, ready to take on the enemy.  When I am ready to give up, she pushes me onward with a speech that would make William Wallace proud.

Love is seasonal. It ebbs and flows. There are harsh winters and blazing hot summers. Early in our relationship romance seemed to roll off our very tongues. Flirtation was a natural part of our interaction. All was bright and beautiful. As times unfolds love changes. Mystery decreases and familiar friendship deepens. I have learned that as marriage changes, ebbs, flows, and grows, there is one thing that does not change. This would be the amount of work that goes into having a healthy marriage. If one stops putting forth effort, just like anything else, things start to deteriorate. One must remember to continue the wooing process. I am thankful for the subtle ways that Devon woos me. Sometimes its slight wooing through doing mundane things that she has no idea how much I appreciate. Sometimes she woos me through deliberate planning that paints a large smile across my face for days.

There are so many things that vie for one’s attention and seek to distract. If we are not careful, there are plenty of outside forces that will covertly enter the marital relationship and drive a wedge between the partners. It is our job to protect and guard the blessing we have been given, which is our spouse. Marriage is sacred. We must protect and defend it from unwanted intrusions that seek its demise. I am thankful that Devon’s desire is to hold sacred and protect what we have at any cost.

The past three years have blown my expectations. The Lord has lavished us with blessings, mainly with one another, a beautiful son, a quirky dog, wonderful family, faithful friends and above all, His grace. I cannot wait to see what adventure awaits us. The first three years have been truly magical.

“How does Elyon love? He chooses. He pursues. He rescues. He woos. He protects. He lavishes.” – Ted Dekker

Devon, thanks for being a reflection of what God does. We have, indeed, been blessed with a great romance.

Walk Good. Live Wise. Be Blessed.

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